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When I think of fingering, I think of being in the back of a movie theater getting felt up by a high school boy who acted like his finger was a tiny penis. In other words, my early fingering experiences were not good. That said, just because teenage boys and some grown men can fail so miserably at fingering doesn't mean that educated adult human beings can't make it feel really awesome. And in some cases, a preferred sex act. In this age of awkward boob-twisting they're not doorknobs and shower sex that didn't pan out like you'd hoped Does it ever? To help us revive that lost art to its former glory, I asked several queer friends to tell me everything they love and don't love about double clicking someone else's mouse.
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